Unloading a LOT

Some good!  Some not so good!  That sets u up for what I am about to unload.  It's been a while since I had time to sit and blog.  The afternoon hours go so fast!  It usually consist of errand running, laundry, picking up after the kids, getting a few minutes of quiet time and hopefully good sleep.  Oh, and some quality time with the kids.  Ya think!  Try and try again.  They are hungry and tired when I pick them up.  It is then a mad dash to get them fed.  VERY IMPORTANT calming mechanism.  FEED FEED FEED.  Next comes sleep for them.  Before that it's a very short play time, bath and a smidge of YO GABBA GABBA.  Then off to bed.  I can't count the meltdowns by both along the way.  So most evenings are pretty painful.  HAHA.  Their good moments override it all.  Can't wait for one of those!!!!  JUST JOKING.  (not really).  Reagan is still draining puss from both ears since her tube placement.  We are having those removed Tuesday at her MDs recommendation.  LONG STORY.  Call me if you really care to know about it.  I am also receiving some negative press about her doc.  Huge stressor on me.  Decisions to be made regarding that. 

Reed is such a HOOT, when he is NOT having a crazy meltdown.  You may see us on DR. PHIL one day.  The title will read, "how to handle your abusive toddler".   Really it's not THAT  bad but I think it's something to keep my eye on.  He does have a temper.  Example- He will try and  tip a table in anger.  That is a huge concern in my book.  I have seen some talk shows recently about abusive and dangerous children so it puts me on ALERT.  I don't think we are there but I do see potential.  Maybe it's just a 3 yr old thing but I am not disregarding it  !!!!  Let me focus on his AWESOMENESS  for a few minutes.  Cause he is when he wants to be.  He has begun to take showers ALL by himself, get out, get dressed and wash all the shampoo out.  He actually does a great job.  I know this because I took a bath tonight while he showered and I watdched him out of the corner of my eye..   WOW.  I am really impressed.  I try really hard to encourage independance in my kiddos.  Som times it shines and sometimes it doesn't.....He is in this huge WHY phase!!!  Everything u say, you get "why" out of him.  I try to be as honest as I can and give a real answer insead of just beating around the bush.  Tonight as he got out of the shower I told him to grab a towel ( i was in the bath)  he asked why?  I said " because you are wet and you dry off with a towel".  Ok, he says and gets a stool, stands up on it and gets the "MIDDLE" towel out.  I have to remove the two top ones for him.  He is OCD too, can't take the one off the top, he has to get the one he wants no matter what the expense.  When he asked why he needed a towel and I told him, I then asked him why we need towels?  He repeated the answer to his own question.  He got it!!!  BUT there is one question I just can't find a decent answer for!!!!  This is a little TMI so skip over if you don't want to know BUT he wants to know about (the monthy girl issue) what is that?  Unfortunately, they will follow you to the bathroom... ONE day I will start locking the door behind me.  Tomorrow sounds like a good day.  LOL.  I know I have seen a book of questions and answers somewhere.  I will start hunting for that book SOON!   I am at a loss for words with that question. HA.

ONWARD.  I am loving the show BETHENNY.  she was the housewife from new york then started her own show.  She started the Skinny girl margarita and makes all healthy clean food.  SHE IS CRAZY in a good way.  I just love her.  I believe we THINK the same.  The difference is she says what she thinks and makes it funny, and I keep it in and boil in frustration......Would it make it better for me to speak what I feel or just chaos.  I think she gets away with it because #1 she is from NY (they are known for being that way), #2 she is a celebrity.  Regardless, I love it and her soooo I am dying to read her new autobiography.

I am book mode.  I don't read a lot but there are several I am very interested in.  This summer by the pool may be the perfect reading spot.  Can't forget to add a little of this.

I am lovin the Judds new show on OWN (oprahs network).  They have such a deep and complicated relationship it's very interesting to me to see what contributes to this chaos between them.  I also enjoy seeing what it's like on a concert tour, since I am a huge fan of live concerts.  There is nothing better than being right there with the artist your enjoy listening to.   Sooooo much better than the radio.  More personal.  Anyway, I have been followin their show and it's DEEP and interesting at the same time.  The other sibling Ashley has an autobiography coming out which is talked about on their show.  I also can't wait to read this.  I don't want to be judemental of the Judds mom due to the book because I feel everyone makes mistakes and could have done some things differently or better(as a parent).  Some kids are not easy.  They are defiant, disrespectful, etc.  I understand this.  What I don't agree with are those parents that don't make the best choices for themselves/children and then don't take responsibiltiy for their lack there of! Fess up to your mistakes, apologize and make better choices and decisions from that point on.  That is exactly what Naomi (judd mom) is doing.  She sadly stated that everything in Ashley's book was TRUE.  She is sad, embarasssed and in fear of judgement.  As I what her on this show I see she was young, made mistakes, then made the best of what she could.  Her children are damaged by much of this but you really need to understand the background and it goes many generations back.  It's sooooo fascinating to me how our actions, morals, values and choices affect us for MANY GENERATIONS.... It carries on forever!  Be careful of your choices. Don't make choice due to present day culture vs old fashion (conservative) culture.. Keep your manners, attitude and choices in check.....They WILL affect your children in many ways you would not believe.  Example-  Shania Twain said today on Oprah that her stepfather (whom she calls dad) was abusive to her mom.  These are HUGE VIVID memories to her.  BUT  the other kicker is, she had nothing but POSITIVE admirable things to say about him as a stepdad towards her.  He was kind, loving, embracing.  He supported her singing.  He was an angel in her eyes EXCEPT when it came to his relationship with her mom.  Abuse was the norm or her.  That was NORMAL.  Be careful what you set up in your household that represents normal.